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Writer’s Tip #57: You are not Superwoman

When you read your story, does it sound off, maybe you can’t quite put your finger on it, but you know you’ve done something wrong? Sometimes–maybe even lots of times–there are simple fixes. These writer’s tips will come at you once a week, giving you plenty of time to go through your story and make the adjustments.

Today’s tip: You are not superwoman. Don’t force yourself to wear the cape.

Here’s what I mean. You’re a working parent–maybe a single parent. You wake up going light speed from the moment your bare feet hit the carpet. You do your day job 9-5. You come home and make dinner, do homework with your children, get them in bed, make sure they have a dose of play with mom (or dad).

Then you do the household stuff–pay bills, do dishes, take the dog out for his business, maybe some cleaning.

By now, it’s 10pm. Somehow busy doesn’t quite cover your daily schedule. That story that’s banging around in your head like a caged bird is still there, begging to be told. What do you do?

I don’t really have an answer. I had to wait until my kids grew up to write. I thought I’d retire, let me husband work while I lived the leisurely life of an author. That didn’t work out, but I no longer worry about a spotless house, a pristine kitchen. I realize I am not superwoman, never was. Now I’m a writer who has a day job.

How about you?

More Writer’s Tips:

10 Tips for Thriller Writers

Writers Tip #53: What Motivates Your Character Provides Conflict

Writers Tip #49: Yes, You Must Format

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Jacqui Murray is the author of the popular Building a Midshipman, the story of her daughter’s journey from high school to United States Naval Academy. She is webmaster for six blogs, an Amazon Vine Voice book reviewer, a columnist for Examiner.com and TeachHUB, Editorial Review Board member for Journal for Computing TeachersCisco guest blog, and a monthly contributor to Today’s Author. In her free time, she is  editor of a K-8 technology curriculum and technology training books for how to integrate technology in education. Currently, she’s editing a thriller that should be out to publishers next summer. Contact Jacqui at her writing office or her tech lab, Ask a Tech Teacher.

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14 thoughts on “Writer’s Tip #57: You are not Superwoman

  1. Jacqui-I love your posts, they are always poignant. I struggle daily to balance family and my writing. Some days are better than others-I try to not be too hard on myself, I still have two kids in school. But today, this week-I’m ready to do what I love!;)

  2. Currently? Playing Supermom to two children who happen to have completely different schedules, house cleaner, the giver of attention to my husband, the dog walker, the thoughtful friend, 4 hours a day I teach 2-3 year olds, and then after all that, I’m trying to self medicate by giving myself a chance to write in the evening. It’s a huge mood changer for me. I need to get that time every couple of days. Trying to eliminate some of those responsibilities, as we speak. Hoping to let the preschool teacher retire…she takes up the most time I have. ;) Thanks for reminding me to stop. I don’t know what I’d do without a husband who works his magic as soon as he walks through the door. This season of life is a rough one, but I know it’ll be over soon. :(

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