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#IWSG Blogging Friends

This post is for Alex Cavanaugh’s Insecure Writers Support Group (click the link for details on what that means and how to join. You will also find a list of bloggers signed up to the challenge that are worth checking out. The first Wednesday of every month, we all post our thoughts, fears or words of encouragement for fellow writers.

This month’s question — Blogging is often more than just sharing stories. It’s often the start of special friendships and relationships. Have you made any friends through the blogosphere?

Hooboy, this is so true. I often talk about my blogging friends as though they were real people (ha! Of course they are!). I learn a lot from their experiences–history, emotions, even about life. I exult over their successes and worry if I don’t hear from them for a while. I’m always happy when one of them warns me s/he will be away for a while because then I don’t worry so much. I love reading how two people who met through the blogosphere then met up in person–or the reverse. ‘Meeting people online’ has grown up a lot since the day I warned my kids to stay away from strangers on the internet!

I guess most important: When I step on toes in my real world and feel alone, I have you-all. Thank you.

How about you?

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@TheIWSG

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Jacqui Murray is the author of the popular Building a Midshipman, the story of her daughter’s journey from high school to United States Naval Academy, the Man vs. Nature saga, and the Rowe-Delamagente thrillers. She is also the author/editor of over a hundred books on integrating tech into education, adjunct professor of technology in education, blog webmaster, an Amazon Vine Voice,  a columnist for NEA Today, and a freelance journalist on tech ed topics. Look for her next prehistoric fiction, Laws of Nature, Summer 2021.

119 thoughts on “#IWSG Blogging Friends

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  2. I might even suggest that growing comfortable with making “virtual friends” via WordPress over the past six years has helped make this past year of social isolation far less lonely, less isolated; I already knew firsthand, after all, meaningful relationships could exist in the digital realm.

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  3. Blogging friends are a real thing. I especially love reading blog posts where bloggers collaborate or catch up for a day out in real life. The community here is such a great community. I love my blog friends and they are always so down to earth. Glad to have met you on here, Jacqui 🙂

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  4. I love your little vignette about blogging friends here, Jacqui, and couldn’t agree more. Like many others, I never thought much about community when I started – and continued – to blog. What a wonderful side-effect that has been. I’ve made many, many friends via our blogs and met about ten in real life so far. It’s been an enrichment. I hope to meet you one day as well!!

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  5. It’s been a pleasure getting to know so many from many different countries and backgrounds. It still fascinates me that I can send out/ or read a blog written by someone as distant as South Africa, in a matter of moments after the post has been published. On a wintry day, here in Canada, I get treated to photos of sunshine and beautiful flowers, or travel to exotic places vicariously. And yes, I feel that friendships have been formed, even though we’ve never met and probably never will, in real life. It’s been a pleasure getting to know you, as well, Jacqui. 🙂

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  6. My blogging friends are my sanity. In fact, I have deeper relationships with friends met online than the ones in my real living world. I think we can form deeper relationships with people we meet online because we get a chance to know them better before we become friends. When we meet people randomly, we don’t always know what else there is to know until we’re knee-deep in it. We gravitate online to like-minded people. If I told you zero of the people in my life even like reading books would that stun you? It sure stunned me.

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  7. I also love my blogging friends, Jacqui, and I spend a few hours a day blogging. I also miss people if they go away or are ill. I have never felt that at ease or at home with people in social situations, largely because my interests tend to be things that people I work with, or befriend through the school, have different hobbies and ways of spending leisure time to me. I spend my time reading, writing, working and blogging [outside family time of course]. Most people I know spend their time differently so we don’t have much in common or much to chat about.

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  8. Thank you for sharing!!.. “Life gives us brief moments with another, but sometimes in those brief moments we get memories that last a lifetime, So live that your memories will be part of your happiness.” (Author Unknown)…. 🙂

    Until we meet again..

    May the dreams you hold dearest
    Be those which come true
    May the kindness you spread
    Keep returning to you
    (Irish Saying)

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  9. You’ve made such a valid point about wondering where our online friends disappear to when they haven’t blogged for some time and the worry – are they alright, since the blog is often the only point of contact.

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  10. I just wrote about this recently. Like many others, I consider many bloggers my friends. It’s a unique relationship formed with people we often have something in common with. Like you, I notice people’s absences when they’re not around and wonder if everything is going okay. I think it’s great when people Zoom or meet up. I haven’t done that yet, but I would, given the right circumstances.

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  11. I’ve made a lot of friends via the blog, and for someone who doesn’t have a lot of friends (by choice), it’s nice to have a good group who share my same interests, and ‘have my back’. I feel closer to my blogofriends than the few RL friends I have. Great post – sometimes it needs to be acknowledged, this weird and wonderful community of ours 🙂

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  12. What a great post in which to reflect on our blogging buddies, Jacqui! I believe writers and those who self-publish really reach out to their blog friends for advice, help, and encouragement. Writing is so personal that friendships easily develop as we get to know each others’ talents and share in their successes. And the best thing is to be able to meet in person when appropriate!

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  13. I so agree, Jacqui. My blog buds are just as read as anyone I get together with in person, and in some ways even more so. I have friends in town that I haven’t visited with in a year (since the covid). I wouldn’t have blogged for this many years without you all. You keep me coming back. 🙂

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  14. Happy IWSG Day, Jacqui! My blogosphere friends are every bit as real to me as my physical friends. Physical friends sounds a little weird. I’m going to adopt Darlene’s “in-person” friends. I think my IWSG friends get me more than many of my in-person friends because they’re writers, and they understand my strange compulsions to write, blog, review books, and other such things. You are amazing, and I appreciate the friendship you have extended to me!

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      • You are such an affirming person, Jacqui. I’ve been reading through your recent posts and wondering how you keep up with it all. Do you eat a lot of spinach? Does anyone remember Popeye? LOL I enjoyed your interview with Liesbet. And I loved “Plunge.” Just finished it on Tuesday in the wee hours. Now I’m reading “The Reckoning” by Robert J. Thomas (Thanks to you). How can anyone write 102 novels since 2002? I’m enjoying it a lot ~ nice break after Obama’s “A Promised Land.” Easier on the brain. Hugs to you, my friend!

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  15. I’ve had a blog for a long time now – 9 years but the concept of having blogging friends is new to me. I am shy and interverted so I don’t reach out much but I’m trying to do so more now.

    It has been fun sharing my blog on blog hops and trying to follow other blogs. I’m not very consistent, though.

    Still I have made a few friends through blogging. When we were stuck in Key West on our boat (everyone says what fun being stuck in Key West but when you are on a boat a mile out, the dinghy ride to shore is always wet, your computer breaks, you husband is injured, ect it’s not so fun) a blog reader let us know he was in Key West too and offered us a ride to the grocery store. He has been a friend ever since.

    And of course there are my friends Ellen and Liesbet – writers and sailors I both met through their blogs. And maybe someday I will meet you!

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  16. Exactly, Jacqui. I’ll be talking with a family member, or a friend on the phone, and say “Oh yes, my friend (fill in the blank, like “Jacqui”) did that last year. She read over 100 books.” And then my family member/friend will ask “Jacqui? Who’s Jacqui? She live near you?” And I explain she’s a blogging friend who I’ve never met and in all likelihood never will, and yet, we know each other well. Those who aren’t bloggers? Well, they just don’t get it. My world has expanded tenfold because of blogging.

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  17. I’m grateful for the wonderful friends I’ve met through blogging. Yes, there are a few predators out there, but it’s like that everywhere and after you weed out the bad ones, you are left with a lovely group of friends with diverse interests and abilities and experiences that are a joy to share.

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      • I have one who keeps following my blog as fast as I can remove him. Every day, he does it. He has one follower (probably his wife or mother). I don’t know what he hopes to get from my blog. Maybe access to more addresses from my visitors? Anyway, he gets kicked off every day. But most of the rest are great people.

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  18. I’m wondering how the blog-o-sphere has altered our evolutionary pattern as social animals. I’ll bet Xhosa would have jumped on the blogger wagon and made darned good use of it. She was one resourceful female.

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    • I do too. I remember one who stopped. I worried, posted a few pokes. Finally, her son posted that she had died, about a year later. It hurt, missing her. Thankfully, he told her loyal blogging friends.

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  19. Beautifully articulated. Plus one. I also find it to be a patient and non-judgmental set. I have connected with ‘real’ people in blogosphere. I look forward to an opportunity when I will meet blogging friends in ‘person.’

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  20. I agree, Jacqui. I love my online friends. I often spend more time with them than I do with my offline friends. I look forward to meeting up with them each week. I’d be lost without them.

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  21. Oh, I agree with you about the “strangers online” thing. Many years ago I would never have thought you could become friends with a stranger on line, but I have made so many friends this way now, and some I have had the pleasure of meeting in person. I hope when covid stops ruling our lives I will meet more.

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  22. Hi Jacqui – lots … and one here … it’s a great community – so helpful, so thoughtful, so kind … we’re lucky as there’s always someone around to inspire us … take care everyone – all the best Hilary

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